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An anonymous woman said that she had received the selfie and other explicit images from Barton, but had not been the person who posted any of them on the internet. She also shared with the Washington Post a recorded phone call in which Barton warned her against using the explicit materials "in a way that would negatively affect my career", threatening to report her to the Capitol Police if she did so. A week later a second woman, Kelly Canon, a board member of the Arlington Republican Club and a member of the Republican Women of Arlington who is a constituent of Barton's, shared a series of messages — some with sexual overtones — that Barton had sent to her.
I am not thinking good thoughts at this moment A third woman, Cheryl Small, said on November 30, , that Barton had sex with her multiple times in his Ennis office while he was married.
His second ex-wife said: I guess I was more surprised that some of these ladies finally came forward. While Barton had no plans to resign immediately, according to a spokeswoman,  and initially had said that he would run for reelection in , a number of state and local politicians indicated that they might challenge him in the election for his seat. Randy Bellomy, Chairman of the Ellis County Republican Party, said "His lifestyle is inconsistent with Republican ideals, and he has brought disgrace not only to Ellis County and the 6th Congressional District, but also to the people of Texas and this great nation.
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I waited six years after I was divorced until I thought I married a woman I was meant to be with. This time around I thought I was going to be more discerning and carefully waited for the right person. Little did I know that I married an alcoholic with significant spending addiction. It amazes me that one of the things we cherished in each other during our dating relationship was our willingness to be honest and address our own personal issues head-on. Now that I am remarried to another alcoholic narcissist, I had felt very trapped by my vow.
Especially so as I have a year-old daughter share with my new wife. I have been attending Al-Anon meetings and started to work the program which is given me a new strong sense of self, support, a new intangible relationship with my creator, the ability to lovingly enforce boundaries, detached from love in situations which are none of my business, and try to take care of myself. My only responsibility is to be true to myself, not walk in denial.
I appreciate the insight, experience, and support gained by Dr. You have put out exactly what I am feeling for a 12 long years of married life. I dont like celebrating even my wedding anniversary anymore, it has become a painful ritual since my second anniversary. The article clearly depicts my wife and her childish expectation. Anyway, now I feel I am not alone in this world.
What is wrong with traditonal roles? Try doing that and breastfeeding. That alone burns calories a day. Especially, if you have a physically demanding job. They are tending to household duties like laundry and housecleaning. The wife just gets kicked to the street?
After, she spent years raising children , cooking , cleaning and whatever else. If the children end up with their father their mother would be just as financially responsible if not more. I know of many women who are well-educated, extremely capable of working with children who are in school full-time i. Many of these women also have weekly housekeepers.
Are they mothers or self-appointed martyrs? You can Google these terms, too, and read some other heartbreaking stories. First of all, deranged women who do use the court system to their advantage are found out in the end. It requires a lot of time energy to lie and sooner or later you will get caught up. I have faith in the justice system. A good male friend of mine just finalized a messy divorce.
He had several affairs throughout the course of their marriage and of course this put her off the deep end. She slapped him with an Ex Parte restraining order and made all kinds of accusations of physical abuse. In the end she had no supporting evidence and backed herself into a corner. They also refer these accused individuals to have DV assessments and substance abuse screenings. What I find so offensive about your site is your approach on educating male victims. I find a lot of your views are based on stereotypes.
Kayla, regarding your comment: Meanwhile, the accused parent loses precious time with their child ren , is made to feel like a criminal and subjected to expensive legal fees, court evaluations, etc. The courts, court evaluators, social workers, attorneys, children support collections departments, etc. The belief that the truth will come out in the end is incredibly naive.
There are many people who make a damned good living banking on the truth not coming out. Courts often reward the individual who is the most convincing, which frequently has nothing to do with the facts. Someone gave me a copy of Men Are From Mars… when it first came out. Speaking of curiosity, I, too, am curious. Would you find what I wrote so offensive if I were educating women about how abusive men can be?
Furthermore, no one is forcing you to read my blog. On the other hand, I do appreciate the page views. Compare that with the tens or even hundreds of thousands that get away with it and inflict humiliation, jail time, financial penalties and the loss of access to the children on an ex suffering in angry, frustrated silence.
Your absolute faith, that you claim to have, in the Justice system is embarrassingly naive and ill informed. Yes, they have a tough job and are often hamstrung by the law.
Yes, many are good people trying their best under difficult conditions…. Kayla you are crazy! The court system doesnt give a damn about justice when it comes to the father. My children were kidnapped using the court system. This WAS because i was a male. Your response to this blog is proof you fit in the category of being a blatent male hater.
Please disect this for the masangany in which you will portrait it as. I along with others are fed up with this childish behavior exhibited by few females and we WILL seek justice. I do beleive men need a place to vent and support. I assumed it was a man that generated this site and was astonished to see it was a woman. And to give some personal insight, I also see this website as dangerous. If the wrong kind of man , a NPD man got a wind of this forum….
Kayla why do you find information that is helping many men make sense out of the craziness and pain they had dangerous? What if a NPD woman found a site about what jerks men are and you better believe they are out there. I write for you guys and its your opinion that matters.
Tyrants and bullies read all sorts of stuff to justify their behavior. This is really no differant. Sure, you can cherry pick, but I read the article with a broad understanding that there are certain aspects that may apply to relationships like this. My wife for instance went to college and never worked a day since we got married and later had children.
She choose to stay home which was a pretty significant stressor to me. Over the years I did get resentful and angry at times that I was not able to fully participate in all the fun stuff she did with them while I was working.
After her own internal resentments built, I was accused of not being fully present in our family which was a so hurtful because I did focus on work to afford her those choices. I was also accused of being too controlling of the money aspects of our relationship. I guess I should have just turned over my paycheck and shut the hell up? Fortunatly I invested very wisely and we are now pretty set. I am now being portrayed as the person who drove her into psycotherapy because I alone destroyed her self esteem.
Rearly a hot meal on the table when I came home. I have enough of my own self esteem that I would feel funny expecting that at all. The kids ate mac and cheese and pizza boxes were frequent guests in our recycle bin.
The house was always clean and clean cloths at the ready, but we are all supposed to now pick up the slack and do for ourselves. However, she has no urgency even doing a resume as our kids are now within college age.
Have I been too nice and too focused on our financial security? This site is a terrific resource for men who are dealing or became entangled with with very sick disturbed individual women, not an entire gender. Most men and women are neither saints or demons, somewhere in between.
It is entirely naive or self-serving to think otherwise. First off, I am not accusing you condoning physical violence. I think the way you write about it minimizes the behavior. Second, you may be able to obtain restraining orders under false pretenses usually for a period of 14 days before you have to attend a hearing to prove the allegations. No judge would extend one for more than a year without something solid.
If you were educating women on how abusive men can be and using derogatory comments to describe them and their behavior I would have a problem with it. Also your forum is open. I am really shocked at some of your posts and felt I should engage you on them. I have looked for a forum to help me figure out how to deal with an abusive spouse and have found none that specialize on men in this kind of setting. Clearly, those women have no respect for the opposite sex.
I am looking for a solution. Not to tell the world how crazy my relationship is. I feel some of your blogs are inflammatory and wanted to give you a female perspective on your work. First, I left you several instances i. I assume your ex-husband said and did things that were extreme and pushed you to the limit now and again. Did you always keep your cool and not lash out in anger? Were you always perfectly reasonable when he was at his most hurtful? If you ever verbally snapped back at him, did he ever use that behavior to portray you as emotional or out of control?
Second, I know firsthand of many cases in which women have managed to drag out denying or limiting visitation between children and their fathers for much longer than 14 days. Negative legal advocates have plenty of tricks up their sleeves to drag out this process based on little or no evidence. In fact, many attorneys bad ones encourage their female clients to make false charges to improve their chances at court. They are predatory abusers.
I can understand why some women are uncomfortable with what my readers and I have to say. I welcome comments from readers, whether they agree with me or not. I read the above, and I agree with everything you say.
A woman indeed has a choice to have a career or not work, and a man has no choice in the matter. As a guy, If I could get away from working for a couple of years, and not be shamed for it, I would do it in a heartbeat. But those ulterior reasons are usually embellished more to make it seem like they are not lazy so people would not shame on them as much.
I respect independent women, or women who will actually work again full-time when the kids are older. Do you know how much childcare costs are? What a nice chunk of change to be taken from your earnings. Depending on the financial situation it might make more sense for one of the parents to stay at home. So, even if later these women who choose to be housewives change their mind and want to rejoin the workforce after their children are older they have a few issues.
They managed to complete their degree but have no work experience therefore making it difficult to get a job that is meaningful to them. So, because they fell behind on their skills and lost experience these women are incapable of going back out into the work force and getting the experience?
Gosh, and you accused me of being derogatory towards women, Kayla. I actually believe most of these women are smart enough and capable enough of working, that is, if they can let go of the infantile wish to be taken care of. You accuse me of generalizations, but the second point you make is a gross generalization.
Finding a job is difficult for most people, especially in this economy. It just means you have to put a little more time and effort into it and deal with some possible jerks.
The belief system you express in your most recent comment, Kayla, are examples of learned helplessness and hostile dependency —neither of which are healthy for you or others who interact with you.
Children should receive reasonable support until they are 18—IF the mother does not interfere and and deny the father access to the children and should receive spousal support for no more than 2 years if she is capable of working. Two years is a more than ample length of time to get up to speed on skills and find a job. There is no logic you can use to explain this to me. Knowing that I had a ticking clock hanging over my head to find a job to support myself was pretty good motivation.
I have absolutely no sympathy for women who adopt these attitudes. They are the reason the negative stereotypes you bemoan exist, Kayla. Woman put themselves in a dangerous situation when they assume they can just stay home for the rest of their life. I love you Jennifer just for this answer. It was something I asked her for her commitment much before marriage. Even in all her friends circle, literally every single lady I know works.
As a man, I can take care of things to the best I can, but over that, it would depend on her too. Irony of life, even her mom and my mom her mom in law were working moms. My mom now stopped due to health issues and her mom is still working. You know, her line actually gets paid much more than mine even with half the exp she has compared to my exp in my line.
You dont need a degree to work at walmart. Being a stay at home mom is the greatest gift of all. You say you cook, clean, and take care of kids. Your always going to have to cook and clean. My ex wife just stayed home got fired and would not go back to work. And when i put my foot down after 5 years she left me and got custody of our daughter and i have to pay child support now. I love my child to death and i miss her when she is gone.
Its so bad when she goes back to her moms i have to close her door to her room cause it hurts to bad to see her stuff around. Oh and the reason my ex got custody was because i have a job and she didnt so she could be their for her more. Our child is in school and i work 40 hours a week and feel like i got punished for having a job. Now our child is 11 and my ex is still a stay at home mom or a 30 year old retire as i like to put it. He finally recieved his HS diploma and my wife is pushing him to apply to 4 year colleges.
I have my values and a boy who did and sold drugs, failed HS, and had a gun in my house does not change his stripes in 8 months….
A young man with substance abuse and behavior problems goes away to live on campus….. I put it this way I say amost nothing anymore. I refuse to engage that everyone should have an education, but nobody is entitled to one. Of the four people in our home, two people do not work, and two get up EVERY day and do what we are supposed to do.
Me and our youngest son. Again, I made it clear in the most constructive and calm way I could I will do whatever it takes to protect him and me. The writing is on the wall.
When it comes to the 11th hour that is the pathology in our family. My wife refuses to engage until the last second and then threatens in the most passive agressive way possible to get her way. Whether it be, blame, shame or guilt. PLUS, I have her family pouring on at the same time, but unwilling to pass the hat. It is coming to critical mass very quickly, and i full anticipate ,and prepearing for your same fate.
She will get her way through the bias legal system, continue to rescue cats full time, and life goes on. I feel your pain and have withdrawn totally from her physically and emotionally.
Oprah has now turned into a good source into the window of what the world is regaurding legal and social landmines of how men are played like base fiddles. Men getting angry about being treated as an ATM and an emotional piece of funiture… who would have thought?
She had zero answer, however i suspect nothing much would change except having to deal with me on any level and having unlimited leverage. What about when the kids is a teenager and can fend for himself after school?
What would the excuse for staying home be now? I stay home with my 16 month old son, and my husband works. I asked him, if I get a job, would he like to stay home with our son. I work just as hard as he does. You should also keep in mind some people have careers that are all or nothing, and are not family friendly. Sometimes a spouse at home, managing the other side of the partnership is the way to go.
My sister-in-law had an MBA and twins — she stayed at home, took care of everything while my executive brother often worked ungodly hours. They have had a happy prosperous marriage for over 30 years. I know this is to years old and no one will probably read it, but I have to disagree and make a point. My ex husband chose to stay at home with our daughter and I worked for the duration of our marriage. Some men DO have a choice, and it was a choice that worked for us, and worked well.
I had more earning potential therefor I worked. These women choose to stay at home to raise their children. They happened to want to be more involved and probablly see working as taking time away from their ability to watch thier children learn and grow. They want to be there every step of the way. Husbandsin a healthy relationship should be able to understand that need.
They expect their wives to support their need for a meaningful career. And yes being a housewife is a job. So maybe you should try it sometime. You might rethink your position. Spousal support is not a form of abuse. Especially, if the children remain with her. If she is suffering financially the children will to. Everyone loses in divorce. The argument that only the ex-wife benefits is ridiculous. They are self-motivated and obviously there is no emotional bond with their children.
Or, what if the father was abusive and neglectful should they be able to still come around? Tey helped put this child on earth they can and should be held financially responsible.
Now, if the mother is denying access because of her own hurt ego and is using her children as tools to torture her ex-husband then that would be an entirely different matter. The court wants to find the most equitable resolution for both parties. Another way of saying it is being fair. And by the way, spousal support is a fraction of the amount of funds the wife previously had access to. So I bet that would be motivation for a housewife to find a job.
When your husband decides to leave you with all the martial debt, bills,and refuses to act like a mature responsible man, take care of his child or think he is not financially responsible for child care costs I see no problem demanding spousal support. And not only one should be held responsible. Demanding some financial intervention does not make this person helpless or dependent.
However, it might make them hostile. And how would my beliefs on this subject be unhealthy for others that interact with me? I wonder if it surprises you that I do have a full-time career in the military and at one point and time I would have liked to be a stay-at-home mother. I could only imagine how much worse my position would be if I had. I am a supporter of housewives. Most especially those married to men in the service.
While their husbands chose a very demanding career path they are at home keeping up with the house, rearing children, and maintaing the family finances. Tara gives here on this site.
You are doing what Dr. Tara has written about in some of the other articles on the site: Going on endlessly about your feelings without doing anything about it. This site is dangerous?
Get a grip, take a deep breath and search around for a site that may be better suited to your situation. There are better places to vent.
My ex has more advanced degrees than me. Kayla… for every example you can give, any guy on thyis site can match you and then some. T is talking about, show a little objectivity, then just about everyone here will accept your point of view.
I know this article is a little old, but I have a situation on my hands that relates very closely to this article. To be honest, I would love it if my wife could stay at home.
When I say needy, I mean she likes to spend money. We were able to get it financed with a hefty down payment from my savings. I was happy with the deal, and so was she… for about 6 months. But, obviously, here is the problem we face. She likes to have new things. Hell, I like her to have new things also! If she lived more like me, maybe it would be. I drive a GMC pick-up with k miles. I still like to eat Ramen Noodles, she likes to pick up Olive Garden. I was happy with my inch round screen TV, she made sure we picked up a inch LCD… and another inch for the bedroom.
I like Folgers coffee, she needs Starbucks for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I could go on and on. To be honest again, I actually like this about her! It helps me to enjoy some of the finer things. However, the problem still remains. We barely earn as much as we spend. In my opinion, she has no legtimate reason to not work. We have a nanny who works for far less than she should, and that same nanny is required by the state to hire a housekeeper in order to keep her disability income, so we have a housekeeper.
The arguments over this turn into full blown fights, and show no signs of coming to an end. Second, all of these new things she likes and the UN-necessities e.
Furthermore, in addition to her mother, you have had to hire a housekeeper and a nanny, so what exactly would your wife be doing at home during the day? I think you have a big difference in values.
Living paycheck to paycheck with a young child is a risky proposition. Being a saver vs. Does she get it? And what about healthcare benefits?
Wanting to quit her job and the emotion and entitlement she has around this issue are not based upon reason. You may as well be talking to a wall. Perhaps if you speak to an objective third party expert e. Thank you for your response! Your comment about resentment is spot on. So, thank you very much for that. Also, I actually have suggested that I quit my job. She was able to calculate how that budget would look, in her head, in a matter of miliseconds.
FYI, you have a right to feel resentment re: A little different here though. When my wife and I married 3 years ago, she had one semester left for her undergrad in psychology.
We had a child and she stayed home for a while. I want her to be fulfilled. Since then she has had 4 jobs and made ZERO money. First she got her R. Everone of these has COST money. Our counselor told her 3 months ago to do some investigation into other schools she accused me of holding her back, not wanting her to get a degree.
She has done none. Ok, a little off subject, but I understand…just a little different. My wife wants to work, but only for the fleeting moment that her latest interest is perked by…oh, and not make any money doing it.
I guess I could spend money going to Europe to learn soccer, in hopes of coming back to be a proffesional soccer player. Agree to comply with her wishes. However, as a family you need to do a test run. Live off of your income, utilizing no credit, for 6 months.
Meanwhile, take her income and put it in savings. If your family is happy with your life style after 6 months, great!! Just my two cents!! How do I put this politely? My ex pulled this, too. Now, in all fairness, she did mostly pull her own with the bills, but I ended up paying for a lot of things in more ways than just financially. This has gotten long and rambling, due to the hour. I work full time and pay for our mortgage, health insurance and food.
We get by, but are not saving. I love my wife dearly and will stay with her however the work chips fall. But, that would make our tight finances even tighter. Laugh, I wish I could take a few years off to pursue a PhD!
I love research and am a closet statistics nerd. But, I have to work to pay our bills. Being a professional student is one way many women avoid becoming an actual professional with an actual career. First they dabble in real estate, then interior design, next they want to become a chef or a charity events planner or a phlebotomist. I have been married for 10 years and my wife is someone I have known from childhood and I do love her like crazy.
Nevertheless, we have had frequent conflicts all through our married life, with many of the characteristics you describe in your posts, especially the professional victim syndrome. The way she remembers our 10 years together is that she has sacrificed her career for the sake of my work. It was always the case that she was not motivated enough to really get into it.
Nevertheless she blames for preventing her from working, and for then making her feel like a parasite, except that I never said that.
I just said being the breadwinner, I deserve respect, and for my time to not be destroyed with tantrums, and to not be yelled at for the smallest things. She used to say often that she feels useless not working, and I used to say well you are working at home and keeping the fires burning so I can get my work done.
I told her you are half of this business. We were in a very unusual situation running a business single-handedly from a remote location, so I did believe this to be truth, for the most part.
But now saying this has come to bite me in the ass, because when I tell her I deserve respect, especially considering that feeding us is my responsibility, she immediately takes it to mean that I am calling her a leech. But I always did and still do consider her running the house and handling other administrative matters a great contribution to helping get our business off the ground, except for the fact that her frequent tantrums and propensity to get angry at me at the smallest things made it very difficult for me to actually work on the business.
I would always point out to her that this kind of conflict was inimical to both our interests but it continued. Eventually she started to say that she was very bored and wanted to move back to a big city. However things have only gotten worse so far.
Maybe it is me being impatient and expecting things to change faster? But I am doing it to keep both of us in this country where we have a better lifestyle, and she can actually find jobs and hopefully a career that she enjoys eventually.
She recently got a job and since then things have been even more crazy. But I am starting to be convinced that there is a deeper issue here than hormones or boredom. There seems to be a very pronounced lack of empathy. She did ask me for permission to open our relationship just before that, and I had agreed, as I am in principle open to the idea.
On the other hand, when I had asked, many years earlier, to open our relationship, she had reacted totally negatively to this idea, equating it to some form of perversion. However I had no idea she was already ready to jump into bed with someone, and especially at a time when I needed all the support I could get from her and she knew it.
During this time, I felt utterly miserable and alone and let down. She did later apologize for this whole debacle and for making me feel left out in the cold at such a difficult time.
It has already had a big impact on my health I am sure. And perhaps my telling her that she is one half of our enterprise has made her feel that that she is entitled to repeatedly and frequently destroy my time and my mental peace. But the repeated episodes of irrational anger and tantrum throwing are very very difficult to live with. Perhaps I just need to give it some time… I have dated quite a few women and I realize that all women have hormones and mood swings, to some extent, and all of us are just humans and give into irrational crap once in a while.
Everyone can go through bad phases and it seems to me this is one such, and that things should get better. On top of that, she is now 32 and if we want to have kids we need to start trying soon. But I am not sure if I want to have kids with her. Another fact is that she was repeatedly raped as a child when she was just 3!
This is also the reason I think why our sex life has been very difficult. Anyway, I have written on for quite a long time… I am very confused. And yes she has threatened suicide several times, though never made an attempt, thank goodness. You have been the sole provider for the last decade. It makes me feel good to give him a nice place to come home to at the end of the day.
You uprooted yourself, your business and started a university program, taking on unnecessary stressors and not only is your wife not happy, she expresses her gratitude by telling you she wants to have an affair. PMS, an alleged abuse history, a sick father, boredom, confusion—these are all excuses and lame ones at that.
Your wife is an adult, not a child. Furthermore, suicide threats are one of the most abusive things you can do to someone. I encourage you to think long and hard about how you want to spend the next 10 years of your life and keep in mind that the longer you stay with this woman, the more of your assets she gets should you divorce.
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